The students at Seton Academy have met Captain McFinn, the shark and several of the other story characters like Bella, Three Tooth, Tox and Stink and Stank, who are aptly cast as barracudas. Together these fish tell the stories of bully verses buddy through songs and activities. We are asking the children to use their ‘Finn Power’ in situations to solve problems in a positive proactive way. Lessons next week will center on feelings. What does it mean to be happy, scared, surprised, angry or sad? They will be asked to solve a problem like this:
A pre-school child goes to the lunch table expecting to sit next to his new friend. When another student gets there first and sits down, the child cries out in anger, “Move or you’re not my friend!” With a teacher moderator, the students will be asked what can be done to solve this problem, how could the angry child use his words differently to still sit by his friend?
Today both parents and educators are asking what is bullying and how does it start? Bullying starts with young children that are trying to get their way and express him/herself in an aggressive manner. We all are individuals and want to express ourselves and we all inherently want to get our way, however, learning social norms and positive behavior at an early age helps children understand that getting their way is not always possible and getting their way using aggressive behavior is not acceptable. Captain McFinn uses critical thinking to help students work out challenges and learn negotiation skills. Here are a few signs to look for in early bullying stages:
Multiple temper tantrums in a day – the child uses angry outbursts to get his way.
Consistently refuses to follow direction – the child uses negative attention tactics to wear down parents/teachers in order to eventually get what he wants.
The desire to be the boss and lead all the time – the child does not see the value in respecting others and their opinions in circle time, play time and group projects.
Lack of patience, tolerance and compassion – the child does not think beyond themselves and their circumstances. They have no self-control and often become angry when a situation does not yield instant gratification.
Low self-esteem – children with low self-esteem often seek others with even lower self-esteem so they can become the boss. They being to start telling lies in situations that might get them into trouble and look for ways to cheat so they can be in the winner spot light.
The few examples above are relationships manipulations. When unchecked they can grow into serious problems if parents and educators can’t get the child to see how this negative controlling behavior affects them and those around them. We all want happy healthy children that socialize in school and other activities. This is why we have chosen Captain McFinn and Friends to help support a positive behavior environment.